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This year, give yourself more compassion than normal. You have adjusted to changes, unable to do some of the things you love most, such as travel and connecting with others. You have been working with more than an average amount of uncertainty. February is the perfect time to connect with the present moment and learn a simple self-compassion exercise.
Begin by asking yourself, “What do I need?”
This is a self-compassion break. If you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, take a break and ask yourself what you need. The answer can bring necessary clarity to the situation. Your answer might be: I need more sleep, I need to pause, I need to regroup. Perhaps the answer is: I just need to get this one thing finished, then move on to (___blank___) or I need some help.
Self-compassion involves recognizing difficulty and giving yourself the comfort you need, rather than judging or criticizing yourself. Studies show that we do not motivate ourselves long-term with fear, negativity, or criticism. I am sure you are a compassionate person, however you are not nearly as compassionate as you think, if you are not compassionate to yourself. So, show yourself some love!
If extending yourself compassion makes you uncomfortable, you are not alone. Most of us suffer from a lack in this area. After all, we live in a world full of stress and overwhelm that is considered normal. It is worth the discomfort and you will become more comfortable over time. As you grow in self-compassion, you will grow in life.
For guided meditations, exercises, and articles on self-compassion, visit www.self-compassion.org. Kristin Neff, PhD is the foremost researcher, author and speaker in this area of study and her website is generous.
Kim Perone, M.A., C.L.C. is a Success, Bereavement & Resilience Coach and Mindfulness Trainer at the Center for Clarity, Compassion & Contentment (CENTER4C). Kim works with business professionals as a coach and also conducts workshops and seminars at her office and in the workplace, now offered virtually. A personal strategist, philosopher, and champion for her clients, specializing in stress reduction, mindfulness, work life balance, bereavement, resilience, and authentic success. Kim is a Certified Life Coach, with an M.A. in Organizational Communication from the University at Albany and author of The Case for Clarity, Compassion & Contentment: Finding Your Center (available on Amazon). It is Kim’s belief that when clarity, compassion, and contentment are present an inspired life is possible. For more information, feel free to contact Kim at [email protected], (518) 301-3593, www.Center4c.com.
